We divorced 1997 and did not re-marry. At the time we had one child. We got back together and have two more children. We didn’t remarry but in Texas considered common law married w/ community property. She has been deported and trying to come back. The marriage has been over for some time and now I want divorce but I DO NOT want my children to go live in Mexico….no way! She has had affair and tried to committ suicide and then committed passport fraud. I am a permanent resident and my children and US citizens.

Situation: Two people date for a couple of years before one person joins the military. The recruiter states to the couple that it’s in their best interest to marry before enlisting, because the military will pay for the move, and the housing. Young, and never having lived together, the marriage lasts 6 months, and they separate. After 6 months of separate, the man files for divorce. At divorce court, the judge sees that the man has been keeping the housing allowance for himself, and denies the divorce until the man pays the backpay amount to the woman. Two more years go by, and the couple are still married, and the man has not paid the amount owed to constitute a divorce. In the meantime, the woman has collected two years worth of housing allowance. Throughout the separation period, the couple has entertained occasionally the idea of getting back together, and have also dated outside of the marriage. Presently, neither of the married people know where there marriage will stand in the future.

Is this considered a sham marriage? If a military marriage suffers stress and separation, is it considered fraud if they stay married in the meantime? Or does the couple need to divorce and re-marry once they’ve made an official decision on their future?

Obviously, the above stated is my situation. My aunt and I had a recent falling out, and now she is threatening to report my "sham marriage" to the U.S. Military. Personally, I don’t see how this is considered sham. Although we are not currently considering ourselves "back together," we do talk to one another on the phone 3-4 times per month, and maintain a friendly relationship through daily text messaging. Right now, we consider ourselves to be friends, but neither of us know whether or not we’ll be together one year from now.

I’m almost positive she’s bluffing, but in the event that she reports us, have we done anything wrong?! Or is this something that happens a lot? In the event that it were to go to an actual hearing, I have plenty of pictures taken at home, restauants, concerts, etc… What would a judge say to this? What would the army say? How do other military families handle marital problems and/or separation?!

Hypothetical Situation: Two people date for a couple of years before one person joins the military. The recruiter states to the couple that it’s in their best interest to marry before enlisting, because the military will pay for the move, and the housing. Young, and never having lived together, the marriage lasts 6 months, and they separate. After 6 months of separate, the man files for divorce. At divorce court, the judge sees that the man has been keeping the housing allowance for himself, and denies the divorce until the man pays the backpay amount to the woman. Two more years go by, and the couple are still married, and the man has not paid the amount owed to constitute a divorce. In the meantime, the woman has collected two years worth of housing allowance. Throughout the separation period, the couple has entertained occasionally the idea of getting back together, and have also dated outside of the marriage. Presently, neither of the married people know where there marriage will stand in the future.

Is this considered a sham marriage? If a military marriage suffers stress and separation, is it considered fraud if they stay married in the meantime? Or does the couple need to divorce and re-marry once they’ve made an official decision on their future?

Obviously, the above stated is my situation. My aunt and I had a recent falling out, and now she is threatening to report my "sham marriage" to the U.S. Military. Personally, I don’t see how this is considered sham. Although we are not currently considering ourselves "back together," we do talk to one another on the phone 3-4 times per month, and maintain a friendly relationship through daily text messaging. Right now, we consider ourselves to be friends, but neither of us know whether or not we’ll be together one year from now.

I’m almost positive she’s bluffing, but in the event that she reports us, have we done anything wrong?! Or is this something that happens a lot? In the event that it were to go to an actual hearing, I have plenty of pictures taken at home, restauants, concerts, etc… What would a judge say to this? What would the army say? How do other military families handle marital problems and/or separation?!

Hypothetical Situation: Two people date for a couple of years before one person joins the military. The recruiter states to the couple that it’s in their best interest to marry before enlisting, because the military will pay for the move, and the housing. Young, and never having lived together, the marriage lasts 6 months, and they separate. After 6 months of separate, the man files for divorce. At divorce court, the judge sees that the man has been keeping the housing allowance for himself, and denies the divorce until the man pays the backpay amount to the woman. Two more years go by, and the couple are still married, and the man has not paid the amount owed to constitute a divorce. In the meantime, the woman has collected two years worth of housing allowance. Throughout the separation period, the couple has entertained occasionally the idea of getting back together, and have also dated outside of the marriage. Presently, neither of the married people know where there marriage will stand in the future.

Is this considered a sham marriage? If a military marriage suffers stress and separation, is it considered fraud if they stay married in the meantime? Or does the couple need to divorce and re-marry once they’ve made an official decision on their future?

Obviously, the above stated is my situation. My aunt and I had a recent falling out, and now she is threatening to report my "sham marriage" to the U.S. Military. Personally, I don’t see how this is considered sham. Although we are not currently considering ourselves "back together," we do talk to one another on the phone 3-4 times per month, and maintain a friendly relationship through daily text messaging. Right now, we consider ourselves to be friends, but neither of us know whether or not we’ll be together one year from now.

I’m almost positive she’s bluffing, but in the event that she reports us, have we done anything wrong?! Or is this something that happens a lot? In the event that it were to go to an actual hearing, I have plenty of pictures taken at home, restauants, concerts, etc… What would a judge say to this? What would the army say? How do other military families handle marital problems and/or separation?!
Jordan: We don’t have a choice on collecting the allowance. It’s not our decision whether or not they provide it. We just get it.
MJ: You seriously repeated my question, you didn’t answer it.

The father of my son is not on his birth certificate and no DNA test has been done. He acknowledges that my son is his, but has never paid a dime nor provided anything for him. I’m taking care of all this, but am wondering something. He has two older children from his previous marriage and has partitioned the court to lower his child support amount for them. They re-calculated it and say that he should be actually paying a lot more. He put my son’s name on the paperwork and claimed that he has been paying me cash and medical without a court order. He did this so they would give his ex wife less child support since he claims to be supporting another child. Since he already filed it and it’s completely not true, would that be considered fraud?
Oh and if it is considered fraud, what are all the possibilities of what could happen to him? We live in Oregon by the way. Thank you!

My ex and I divorced in 2000. Within the marriage we had two boys (now 14 & 10). Four months ago, through DNA and her own admission, I found out they are not mine biologically and in fact are results of indiscretions with two different men. I’ve paid child support for both and during that time I was not aware that my ex and her "now husband" (the father of the youngest) knew all along! Isn’t that, in itself, child support fraud? She’s living with the real father of the youngest and pinned child support on me since the day he was born. On the flip side, she doesn’t want to disclose who the father of the oldest is. I love my boys and that will never change. Just because I don’t want to pay child support for children that aren’t mine, when she knows well who the fathers are, doesn’t make me a bad guy. Up to now, I’ve shared fifty percent custody with her. I would never turn my back and walk away from them emotionally or physically and the boys understand that. But I feel that the real "fathers" should be held financially accountable for them. I strongly feel, even at least for medical history and so forth, that the oldest needs to know who his father is. He has rights too and she refuses to talk about it. Is there any way the boys and I can have any justice? Upon her finding out that we’ve discovered the truth, she’s become very angry and now wants full custody. It isn’t enough that she hurt me in pinning two children on me but after building a long relationship with them she wants to rip them away from me. She often asks me why is it that I still want to visit with them if they’re not my children. The children aren’t animals that I can just severe the relationship just like that. It would take a cold-hearted person to even say such a thing. Does anyone have any advice. I’m distraught, confused, and torn. Is there anyone I can talk to? Is there anyone that can help me?

My sons marriage is on the Rocks. They separated after filing a joint Federal return. He told her when the refund check arrived to call him and he’d endorse it and split the money with her, which seemed fair since it was all based on his income because she hadn’t worked. She had a better idea, forge his name and keep all the money.
In SC forgery is a felony, not to mention it was a Federal check. Now he’s just trying to get a copy of the check back from the IRS to see how and where she cashed it. Are spouses immune to committing fraud on a partner? If he’d signed someone elses name on a check, he’d be in jail already. The local cops have told him the best he might get is his day in family court, for a Federal Check? Awe come on now!
Is this for real? It doesn’t sound right.

marriage is likely, but as i’ve been suckered into watching Sandra Bullock’s recent film "the Proposal" i’m scared of the consequences. Something about Marriage fraud immigration being a felony and the up to ,000 fine + jail time…..kinda scares me… let me know if you folks know of anything, and more importantly can link me to a credible online resource for further research (as i’ve been looking but keep finding lawyer websites)

My "con artist" ex-wife, deceived me from the very first day we started corresponding as to her intentions (I wanted a wife……..while she wanted to swindle me).

Since she already knew BEFORE she even inititated ANY correspondence with me that she was not legally entitled to come to the U.S.A. under any kind of Visa, (Moral Turpitude …….. Child Abuse/Neglect) that she might as well find a "mark" to steal from. With this kind of deception in her mind she used a marriage to me to assist her in her efforts to STEAL ME BLIND!!

But does this "bogus marriage" (on her part), also constitute Insurance Fraud under my Health Insurance Policy?? I mean it is supposed to be for my wife and children, but if the authorities declare her actions to be "Marriage Fraud" doesn’t that mean that the insurance benefits she received were also obtained under "FALSE PRETENSES"………..and therefore criminal "Insurance Fraud"?
I mean she obtained insurance benefits through HER acts of DECEPTION and victimized not only me (thousands of dollars), but also my insurance company (also into the thousands of dollars)?

My brother was forced to marry a girl. She said he got her pregnant and her family said they would charge my brother with rape if he didn’t marry. I had to pay for the wedding. It cost me 55,000 and I only had 30,000. So I borrowed 25,000 from the family of the girl my brother was marrying. After the wedding I discovered she wasn’t even pregnant. And soon after, she was playing with other boys.

Now she and my brother are separated, but I still owe her family the money I borrowed for the wedding. They said I only have to pay 12,500 because the marriage is over, but I don’t have that much money. Is it fraud if I simply can’t pay? Will I go to jail?

Also, didn’t the girl (and her family) commit fraud by lying about the pregnancy and forcing my brother to marry (and forcing me to pay for the wedding)?

I’ve been married to a woman who drew ssi for her 17 year old son,(now 19) for two years. She got married to me from another state and lived with me. but told the government she was single and a at home mom for the past 2 years with no income. I made 63,000 dollars the first year. If I turn her in who gets in trouble. because i want out of this marriage and situation.( now separated) I’ll go down just to see her get it too. because she’s a con artist.

My brother is at the beginnings of a divorce and his lovely wife *sarcasim* opened over 4 credit cards in his name without his knowing. Among other acts of deception including marrying him for health insurance to take care of a pregnancy and a child that she lied and said was his and taking money to pay her bills and then never paying them and then he later would have to pay them again……..can he file for marriage fraud and identity theft?

I have a friend, she is Brazilian and she is currently in Brazil but she wants to come to the USA as a tourist visa. Her boyfriend is here in the USA but is currently illegal but soon will be getting his green card to be legal here. She was wondering if she gets married here in the USA with him, who is currently illegal. What would happen to them? Would he be deported? Also, what would happen to her since she would be here on a tourist visa?

Another question is if I know a person who is a US citizen and wants to marry an illegal alien here in the USA. Would they be able to get married? If yes, what would happen to the illegal spouse? Would the marriage count as a fraud? Also, would the illegal person be deported back to his/her own country?

Last question, if two people are illegal in the USA and want to get married. Is that possible? If they did, would they get deported? And if they have a child together, and the child is a US citizen, what would happen to the child? since both parents are illegal here in the US.

I discovered our marriage was based on fraud & he’d been planning on divorcing me from the beginning of our marriage.
No Im not Catholic….. Everyone warned me at the beginning he was only using me, but I was blind. Now 6 years later, he got what he needed from being married. Fine, let him go. I’ll recover & I’ll take care of my little girl without him. But why should he benefit from using me?

My mother remarried a man who at the time of their courtship, was working full time & contributing 50/50 to the bills.

She worked as well full time.

They have no kids & no mutual financial accounts/purchases.

I think it’s fraud because he finished his degree 2 months after they married, and has NEVER looked for a job to use it for OVER A YEAR.
He’s not even a good stay at home house husband!
MOM has to do ALL the cleaning & cooking, etc…Totally NOT FAIR!

She’s building resentment day by day, and I keep warning him to shape up, but apparently it’s not changing his freeloading ways.

Stepdad just moans about how "There are no jobs, I can’t use my degree, All I do is get picked on, etc" Bla Bla Bla!

BTW this is in FL…. What should she do?
PS- He would never consider marriage therapy.
Thanks guys!

The house is in her name, and so are all her accounts/car, etc. I know she didn’t pay for his school (THANK god!)….But will she have to pay alimony if they get divorced?

I can prove abuse and that the entire marriage was a fraud to begin with (we actually had sex less than two weeks before their marriage back in September) I have documents ie. emails, letters, cards that state how much she regretted getting married dating back to October (less than a month after the marriage) my concern now is that I am 100 percent positive that he has been physically abusive to her. Now, (pending DNA testing) she is pregnant with my child and still considering not getting a divorce. Is there any chance of me being able to get custody of the child based on all this info?

Last year, I took a new job and a pay cut. One of the ways we planned to offset my pay cut was by using my employer’s sponsored healthcare plan, which is a difference between 0/month for mine and 0 for his. Also, my co-pays are alot less, per visit verses . Everything is less out of pocket from prescriptions to lab work to deductables to maximum out of pocket.
My husband is court ordered to carry insurance through his employer for is two children. My coverage would also cover them but with a better plan. The insurance company is actually the same, so are the doctors listed in the PPO, but his x, the children’s mom wouldn’t agree to let us change insurance without us agreeing to be solely responisble for the cost of healthcare until the children are 18. We can’t do that. And we can’t afford to keep both coverages.
My insurance would actually put more money in her pocket because right now we share the cost of co-pays and other non-covered expenses and with my plan they would be less. Also, child support would increase because the cost of insurance is deducted from my x’s income, so she would see a 28% of the savings between the two plans.
The main reason she wouldn’t agree was because she had filed some frivolous contempt charge against him and lost a few months before all this came up and was trying to get even. She didn’t believe me when I told her that there was no open enrollment at my new employer unless you have a qualifying event, like a marriage or a divorce.
So now we are thinking about getting divorced to get remarried so I can add them to my policy, that is if the x will now agree to let me cover the children. She isn’t as mad anymore. Would that be insurance fraud? How do we find out? We don’t want to commit a crime or anything.

Married me because I have a house & disability settlement? I have email he sent to a friend stating he made sure I had dinero – really I don’t have much, just more than him & my house. Also I have another one saying he married me without loving me, but feeling sorry for me & did so to "help" me.
Did not disclose K stock he lost prior to marriage?
Unable to have sex after cancer treatment?
He signed pre-nuptial, but still tries to take what I have.

this about inheritance mail.at first i doubted it,but i dont know and how they convinced me to believe them.they provided all documents to proof that im the beneficiary.and i went all the way to meet them in London. it was a nightmare for me,a worst experienced ever in my life.they took 15,000 US $ from me.they said i have to pay the storage fee or demurrage to release the boxes of money. i did that,then after i gave the money they all gone and never contacted me anymore till i come back home.i have eating disorder now,i dont know whats going on me. i hate to talk to anybody and see any one of my friends.only my children are the one who lifting up my spirit now. how can i forget this? how can i be back to normal?half of the money i paid for those people who fraud me i borrowed with interest.thats my big pressure of how i can pay back the money i borrowed now that im totally devastated,depressed,down and out. i cant even work well and dont want to go out. please help me!
also im a single mother of 5 kids and i dont know really how to handle this.all my savings gone with this inheritance that i thought ill be having money for this.im taking care of my ill parents too.all my life i suffered a lot,failed marriage,a battered wife,i even dont get support money from my ex coz he filed a bankcruptcy.sometimes im thinking that im existing to suffer only.i dont know and im really losing control to myself to move on and thinking just to die.but still im thinking of my 5 children what will happen to them if im gone.i need all your advices for me.whoever reads this message please lift up my spirit !

What case study did your lawyer use? What was the court experience was like? What to avoid and what to do to show the court that the marriage was a fraud? Was your spouse deported? Thanks for any advice

I need a lawyer who will sue the USCIS for failing to protect a citizen of the USA by simply enforcing the laws it already has in place, Fraud, denying me my civil rights. This case could very easily go class action as there are thousands of men out there that have married women from other countries only to find out they were scammed by their wives and their country. After giving immigration officers stacks of evidence that my wife had committed marriage fraud , broke several laws and even Lied about her name on her visa app (wich means the united states let a foreiner in without even knowing who the person really is) after all that they laughed in my face and told me they were only interested in busting citizens who committed marriage fraud. I have been told exactly that on numerous occasions by many different people at the USCIS. Still Feel Safe ????? If anyone can help me please contact me for the whole story.Thanks

Bill Clinton had been a serial adulterer for their entire marriage, as everybody with half a brain knows.

In 1988, he called me and said that he and Hillary were considering divorce and he had to get away from her for a while. I offered him my house in Key West, Fla.

Right before the 60 Minutes show during the 1992 campaign, he called for my advice and I suggested that he admit and apologize for the adultery with Flowers and he said "If I did that, I'd have to find a new place to live."

In 1995, reviewing his testimony in the fraud trial of Susan McDougal, he asked me how he should handle his "relationship" with her. I said: "If you had sex with her, admit it. Don't perjure yourself. We can always undo the political damage, but we can't undo the legal damage." He nodded.

For Hillary to pretend injured innocence at this point has only one motive: She needs to somehow justify her strident public defense of her husband.

She can't admit the truth: that she defended him because she didn't want him forced from office — ending both their political careers — because he'd been unfaithful to her.

Hillary, give us a break.

— Dick Morris, an adviser to Bill Clinton for 20 years
soperson – actually and honestly…YES!

My husband and I are totally faithful to each other and we have a great marriage.

My ex never agreed in writing to help with college but he had said he would. Through the years I never pushed for all the child support I could get because I thought he would help with college. He paid her room deposit, took her to register and then the very next day said he couldn't pay that much and asked if she could go to a cheaper school. She found a cheaper school and then the night before graduation he backed out of all help. He paid his last child support in June and that has been it. He knows she takes monthly medication and he will not help with those expenses either. She has now chose a community college and is working to pay her rent, etc. The worst part is he sent his two step kids out of state to a private Christian college and paid for their cars, cell phones, laptops, etc. But his own he will not help with. Since it was understood all along that he was going to help and now he backed out, can I take him back to court for some type of fraud or something?
Even though she is working, according to all the government, I am responsible for her college until she is 24 or married. For that reason she is not able to file on her own next year with her income to get extra help.
Many of you have pointed out that 18 is an adult. However, my point in all of this is that he put his step children through an out of state private college and provided all they needed. I realize that at some point they have to be adults BUT the government will not let us do that. She is working, has her own place, etc. but the government will still not consider her on her own. I am angry because he stands up in church and professes to be a Christian, works in the church but he and wife are doing all they can to turn their backs on his first marriage. This is wrong. This is a man that would not even give his daughter 100 towards a security deposit for her apartment. He would not even help her get simple house-hold items to get started. She has done NOTHING to them. In fact, she has went over-board in being nice to all of them to get along. Even when she was excluded from trips to the beach each summer. If a child is college material, the parent should make an effort to help.
One more thing, this is also a man who got over 0,000 a few years back in a settlement plus he makes + a year and that does not include the income from his wife.
Yes, the government does make them adults at 18 BUT to apply for any loan, they have to start with the one from the government. It does not matter if they are even 21 years old, living on their own, working, etc. They have to include my income (if any) and my husband's income until they are 24 or married. Even though my husband is the stepfather we have to give them our income for them to use in determining any grants, etc., before they other things kick in. I think that it is awful that a man has to have a court order to do anything for his daughter. I know that is current wife is behind it and I think it is awful that he can not be man enough to stand up to her and say that she is his daughter and deserves his help the same as the stepkids. Yes, I tried to stay out of the courts because I thought this man was actually honest in what he said through the years but I was wrong. As for his stepkids, they have grown into rude adults – I should have taken him for every cent.
Sorry – forgot. Yes, I do live in the United States.

These are assets acquired during the marriage

Why do you love legals so much? All legals I know as such by marriage fraud:those are former illegals, too tired of waiting for amnesty, who paid -15,000 to marry a US citizen for papers. You won't believe how many people do it! And why not, if that's the only way to become a US citizen? Now they have access to the much coveted job market and they are the ones you compete with. Not us, honest illegals…too dignified to marry solely for a passport.
Think about it before you answer.
And read US immigration laws before giving people advice!
I know some girls who came years after me, but married for papers right away. Now they pretend not to know me anymore. How arrogant is that? As illegals, they were dishwashers, spoke no English, but now because of their citizenship they are in all college and have good jobs.